virginity…

another random thought that went through my head while i was happily chatting with a friend of mine. the question of whether virginity matters to a girl these days. whether a girl is a virgin or not, does it really matter?

it’s not that i’ve not given any thought about this issue. i have. it’s just that sometimes, there is no right or wrong in some certain issues in life. as a matter of fact, the matter of virginity is one of those that is really subjective to how you want to view it as.

as i’ve said earlier, it’s a really sensitive issue. rather embarassing even. how many parents would actually talk openly to their children about sex? it will be about bees and birds and whatnot. heck, even my own parents won’t talk to me about sex. and i consider myself legally adult. well actually, i am an adult, legally i mean. sometimes i wonder, how did i get so open-minded…

as far as i know, there is only one way and one way only to test if the girl in question is a virgin. and that is, on the night of the wedding, during the first sexual intercourse, if the hymen tears and there is blood, then that girl is a virgin. if, by all means, you do not see blood, well, you know what it is.

however, is this method really accurate? what about those who tore their hymen when they do vigorous activities like sports? those who have never ever had any sexual intercurse and yet, tore their hymen by whatever means of accident? can these girls prove that they are in fact a virgin? even when it’s really none of their fault? what about those that are raped? it’s not their intention to have sex with some guy. they are forced to. are they not considered a virgin? are they not pure?

and why is it that the matter of whether a person is virgin or not is only applicable to girls? what about guys? they can boast about how many conquests have they made and girls have to suffer because of it? you fool around with girls and yet, when you marry a girl who’s no longer a virgin, you complain? where is the equality in that? men call the women names like bitch, slut and what not when they fool around, when they sleep around. but, do women get to name-call men when they sleep around? when they have to penetrate every single human with a vagina?

nevertheless, does virginity matter? does it give you more food in your stomach? does it provide you with a higher income in your job? does it make you any smarter? the answer is NO!

so, girls, live you life the way you want it to be. not the way others say you should live it. if sex is what you want, so be it. say out loud what you want. as long as you’re responsible for your own decisions and behaviour.

and guys, remember gender equality. if you do not want to marry a girl who’s not a virgin, it’s really simple, then don’t sleep around. i’m sure there will be girl who is suitable for you. remember human rights and no name-calling when you, yourself is tainted.

love,
natalie
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